If the Law of Attraction is so great, why do I keep getting bad relationships?
ByWe hear so much about the law of attraction. Most times it is in terms of how do I attract money into my life? I must restate that the law of attraction is a term that is over simplified and over used. First of all it is really not a law unto itself. It is a combination of 2 universal laws or principles. According the Hermetic philosophy there are 7 universal laws or principles. Any Law or principle is universal when it can apply on any plane of existence, whether it is mental, physical or spiritual. If it can not work on all levels it is not universal. The law of attraction is really a catch all phrase for the universal principals of cause and effect and vibration. Stating it as the law of attraction can simplify it for many but when It comes to practical application it can be confusing. So let’s look at a practical application of the law of attraction concept in romantic relationships.
Let’s start with defining the components of the law of attraction. The first component is the law of cause and effect. It simply means that every cause has an effect and every effect has a cause. In the case of the law of attraction, thought is cause. In other words the way you think(cause) has a definite effect on your reality. The second component is the most talked about component of the law of attraction and that is the law of vibration. The law of vibration simply states that nothing in the universe is at rest it vibrates. Of
course anything that vibrates makes a sound or has a tone to it. We can use an analogy of a guitar string. When one plucks a guitar string it vibrates and makes a sound. When two sounds can resonate together they make beautiful music. This is the law of attraction broken down in its universal components.
When we consider the relationships that we have had or want to have the law of attraction comes into play. If you are a person that continually seems to get into bad relationships then you have to consider the two components of the law of attraction and why you seem to find these people. Or another way to look at it is how do you keep attracting these types? One of the main concepts that anyone has to understand about physical reality is that we create our reality. Our perception of reality is unique to each individual. No two people see anything alike. Therefore, we have to consider how we think about relationships and how the people will manifest themselves in our lives. Thought is cause. If you have a negative concept of how people will interact with you then you will attract those people into your experience that harmonize or vibrate with you. Your thoughts cause you to vibrate at a certain rate and the people that harmonize with you are the ones that you allow into your experience. The other people are all around you at any given time. From your perspective you simply notice the people that resonate on the same vibration as you. A great analogy of this is when you buy a new car. Have you ever noticed that when you get the new car how you see all the same cars as yours when you are driving the new car? They were there all the time but now you have the same car or resonate with these people and cars and they enter into your awareness. Nothing changed except your new perspective/car. This is the same thing that happens in relationships. You vibrate at a certain rate and the people that harmonize with you enter into your awareness.
If you are sick and tired of having the same type relationships then you simply have to change your vibration. You do this by changing your thought process. First of all you must know what it is that you want in that relationship. Have you ever heard someone say, “I don’t know what I want in a relationship, but I know what I don’t want?” these people wonder why they keep getting what they don’t want. The issue is that the universe is aware of one language. That language is the universal language of the mind. It sees pictures. The universe does not hear words. If your focus or the pictures in your mind are on what you don’t want, guess what the universe sends you? That’s right, they get exactly what they don’t want if that is all they can visualize. This is why it is so important to know what it is you want and be able to picture and visualize it. So if you are sick and tired of the bad relationships know that you are creating your reality. If you think you are the victim you have given away your power. Think about the good aspects of what you want and send those pictures to the universe. Know what you want and know thy self. As someone once said to me that I thought was a great analogy, “you can’t think like a hot dog and expect to attract a steak.” If you are a negative individual, do not expect to attract a positive type person. I guess if you are a beef hotdog you maybe can attract a steak but pretty soon a realization will occur that you are both different. That steak will have to move on. A steak and hot dog can not coexist on the same plate… er, I mean plane.
Remember as a soul you are here to learn and experience. Understand the universal laws. Understand them and how they work in depth. When you do, you will be able to create the world you desire. It does not happen over night. It can, but not usually. Being in human form our growth is definitely a process. Often times its painful. But we have the capacity to grow. You just have to be brave and set great expectations for yourself.
Are you a brave soul?
Reginaldc is me @ http://reginaldc.me
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12 Comments
April 12th, 2009 at 10:41 am
I searched for my soulmate for years. Then I used LOA to find her and she turned up in 6 days. When I was able to sit down and list the qualities I wanted to find in a person as well as the qualities I wanted to bring to the relationship and focus my intention using the vibration of love, I found her in just 6 days and we have been together ever since.
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April 12th, 2009 at 10:52 am
Mark, thank you for that comment. I know you are right.You obviously believed a certain way before, or you were able to change your belief and have a transformation and total faith that you would find your mate. For many this journey will be a process. It can happen as quickly has you had it happen but there has to be a transformation. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. It is set that way for a purpose. It is great to hear a story like yours it gives many people hope.
April 12th, 2009 at 4:02 pm
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Thanks for being a light onto this world.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
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April 12th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
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April 13th, 2009 at 9:09 am
Reginaldc, as usual, another great post! I linked to it from mine. I am intrigued by the way you break down LOA into two laws. It does make sense.
When you become the partner that you want to attract, then the right person will resonate with those vibrations. As you say, holding a picture of what we do want is extremely important. Over time, we start vibrating like the picture in our mind, and become that picture ourselves. Does this make sense?
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April 13th, 2009 at 11:01 am
“Over time, we start vibrating like the picture in our mind, and become that picture ourselves. Does this make sense?”
Hi Palma, I love how you can make the point of my whole article in one line.
That makes perfect sense. It is the process of becoming that which you desire. In order to attract what we want we have to become that person. People have been saying that philosophically for years. Understanding LOA really puts the power to manifest your desires in your hands so to speak.
April 14th, 2009 at 6:26 am
LOL, I feel the same about you, when you comment on my posts!
You are right, understanding the principles makes LOA work for us, rather than by default. I always love the way you explain them.
April 14th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
Great article! So many people talk about LOA and think that all you have to do is state what you want and presto, it appears. But like you point out, if you still have beliefs, habits, patterns in your life that you are carrying on, it will get in the way of manifesting what you truly desire and instead, like you state, manifest what you don’t want. The reticular activating system that you talk of, how we keep seeing what it is we are thinking of or expecting, is important to understand, so that a person can decide what they would like to “start gathering evidence about now”….such as people whom they would really enjoy being with. So many people don’t really know what it is they do want…only what they don’t want. But is is easy to just be aware of the “don’t wants” to see what you truly do wantinstead. Sometimes it is also important to clear away old beliefs, or a person will continue to attract people and circumstances that are fulfilling a deeply buried desire.
Thanks for writing this and expanding upon the LOA!
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April 14th, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Hi Katelon, thank you so much for your comment and compliment. So much of what I read about LOA today fits into the same mold of get it quick and easy attitudes. Its not to say that we can not get things quick and easy, but our belief on the inside construct our reality on the outside. Beliefs and reality are always a match. I read so much of where people are frustrated and discount LOA. I think that if they were to really understand and study what it is about it would be so much more helpful to them. The funny thing is that we have had the basic teachings in front of us for thousands of years in the form the bible and other religious texts. But the truth has been covered in man made dogma and superstition. I know that I am one of many that are breaking down those barriers to understanding true spirituality. The world is in need of more understanding on many levels. not just dogma and ideologies that separate us.
April 23rd, 2009 at 8:10 pm
Reginaldc, your reply above sums it up. You can only get it as quick and easy as changing your beliefs will allow. Until that is done, and the inner belief matches your desire on all vibrational levels, it cannot happen.
Unfortunately many “teachings” about LOA are doing a disservice and giving wrong and partial information. This frustrates people, when they realize nothing is happening, because they weren’t aware that picturing it without believing it in every fiber of their being, is not going do it…
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April 23rd, 2009 at 11:32 pm
So true Palma that many teachings of LOA is a disservice. I think many of them just believe that it is positive thinking and that is all there is to it. LOA is about a belief system. as you stated it has to be thought, felt and visualized with every fiber of thier being. when this occurs the universe works without fail.
May 2nd, 2009 at 5:56 pm
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